Continuing in the series on marriage, I want to discuss the topic of sex. Yes, you heard me correctly. I am want to discuss the topic of sex because to begin with it is a gift from God. Trey Morgan, a Pastor in Childress TX, did a great sermon on this topic back on April 8th, 2009, and it would be worth a listen too. I will be borrowing some from his sermon while adding a bunch of my own.

To begin with, as I mentioned, sex is a gift from God that is meant to be shared between two married people only. The way that we know this is the following:

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As we can see, both fornicators (people who have sex outside of marriage) and adulterers (people who have sex inside of marriage with someone other than their spouse) will be judged by God and not inherit the kingdom of God. That is pretty harsh since in order to get to heaven we need to be able to inherit the kingdom. Therefore, it is obvious that God desired that sex be only for those in marriage. But we can see that for those in marriage, sex, or the marriage bed, should be held in honor and the reason is because it was given as a gift from God.

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God created Adam and saw that there was no one for him. He then created Eve starting with a rib from Adam. And when he brought Eve to him, Adam was amazed at what he saw and this is when he said called her woman or as I like to think he called her Whoa-Man. Taking this into full account, we can see that when God created them, he told them to be fruitful and multiply. To put that in today’s terms, God told Adam and Eve to have sex, because it was a gift from God, and have children. When God created them, it was a natural and good act for them to enjoy with each other as a gift from God that would also fulfill the command to multiply. It is important to note that back in the Garden it was not something that was dirty or nasty or hidden. It was only after the fall when they needed clothing and sin had entered mankind that sex began to become something more than a precious gift from God.

We need to understand that before the fall of mankind, Adam and Eve were walking in the Garden naked and sex and multiplying were not something to be ashamed of because they were not ashamed at all. In fact, they were freely moving in God’s gift that he had bestowed on them and enjoying each other as a married couple should. Only after sin entered mankind and they became ashamed of their nakedness and they were expelled from the Garden did the natural act of sex become something a bit more. And from that moment until now, the enemy has done a great job twisting the concept of what God designed to be shared between a husband and wife. In fact, there is really nothing new under the sun.

People think that widespread homosexuality, fornication and adultery are new, but it is not. In fact, King David of Israel had issues dealing with adultery, for example. And I am not just talking about the fact that he had concubines, but the problem he had with Bathsheba. David had seen her one night bathing and he lusted after her (2 Samuel 11:1-2). This was his first problem, but it did not stop there. He then called her and had sex with her because he was the king, but it didn’t stop there because she got pregnant. Did David do the right thing? No, he called her husband to come back from war to sleep with his wife, but he would not. So, David sent him back out and told his commander to put him in the front line so that he would die (2 Samuel 11:15). In other words, David committed adultery and caused Bathsheba to do the same and then became an accessory to the murder of her husband and eventually took her as another wife (2 Samuel 11:27). And all of this was for sex, perverted sex because of the fact that sin entered mankind back in the Garden.

That is the bad side, and just the beginning of the bad side, but this is a study on marriages and how sex is a gift and a joy for those who are married. One of the places in the Bible that you can really see this concept of sex and enjoying your spouse is in the book of Song of Solomon. This book is filled with the conversations between The Lover (Solomon), The Beloved (Solomon’s wife) and The Beloved’s Friend and the words between The Lover and The Beloved can get quite spicey. I will let you be the judge.

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As I said, spicey stuff, but that is because this is part of a conversation between a husband and wife and they are talking about the fact that they are in love and enjoy each other and the gift of sex that God has given us. In fact, this book mentions several times to not arouse the lover until the wife is ready to be pleasing.

As you can see, the Beloved, or the wife, is telling her friends not to arouse or awaken her love until she is ready to be pleasing to him. Now, you can take this several ways, but with all the seeming references to sex and enjoying one another in this book, I believe that the Beloved is saying not to arouse her husband until she is ready to be pleasing in intimate sexual relations. How is that for Scripture? God has a place where he is demonstrating for us the concepts of a good and solid marriage where the two are so in love and enamored with each other that they spend their time pleasing each other with both words and physical contact. This is why I say that sex is a gift from God both for our enjoyment and for the fulfilling of multiplying and filling the earth.

God tells us to be enraptured, captivated, intoxicated, and fully encapsulated by the love of the wife of our youth. The reason he states it that way is because God, in his infinite wisdom, knew we would be a depraved race and seek divorce and remarry. But he desires that we be enraptured by the wife of our youth; our first wife that God joined us to and mixed us into one can of paint with. Just look at the verses above and think about what God is calling us to do and empowering us to be. As a husband, I see the above verse and know that if I allow God to be God in my life he will always empower me to see my wife in new and exciting ways that will keep me wanting to come back for more. And speaking from experience and eighteen years of marriage, I can say that God has continued to do just that.

In fact, given this verse, I can see how my wife should be the standard of beauty in my life. She should be the standard by which all others are measured and all others fall short against. My wife should be the single most beautiful woman on the planet to me because God is enrapturing me to her and drawing me to her body and blessing me like a fountain because of it. When I see other woman around town or on television, I should see all of them as less than my wife because my wife sets the standard by which all other woman must be measured and she sets the bar high because God has empowered her to satisfy me at all times with a holy connection that began when he mixed us into one can of gray paint. And so far, I have yet to find a woman (not that I am looking) that comes even close to measuring up to my wife and I know now that by God there will never be one, and that is the way it should be.

I hope that this has helped you get a better insight into a topic that is admittedly tough to talk about because there is so much perversion and misunderstanding both inside and outside of the church on this topic. Next post, I will discuss how children fit into the perfect picture of your marriage. Stay tuned.

Love in Christ.

 

 

The Marriage Series (so far):

• Part 1 : Marriages – Introduction

• Part 2 : Marriages – Two Shall Become One Flesh

• Part 3 : Marriages – The Role of a Lifetime

• Part 4 : Marriages – The Authority of the Spouse

• Part 5 : Marriages – Hearing Do You Understand

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